A Swing and a Miss

The date went fine. I enjoyed the food, wine and our conversation. We had some funny moments and laughed. He's tall, handsome and intelligent. He was a gentleman. Something in my gut just wasn't quite right and I couldn't quite put my finger in it.  He said he wanted to make a plan to see me again. As we parted he said he didn't want to wait another six months.  I agreed to dinner Saturday night. 

After I left him that night and the next morning I was thinking I didn't want to go to dinner with him and I wasn't sure why I was feeling pressured.

The next day I got my answer. He called multiple times on my work line and left two messages. I didn't answer or return the calls.  I had meetings and was super busy. I told him the night before I was taking my car in for repairs early and had a busy day.

He called, texted me and left a message on my cell phone as I was being driven to pick up my car. I learned from my coworker she had answered my line and told him I was gone for the day.  In the message he left on my cell phone he said he knew I had left work early and wondered what my plans were. High Maintenance.

Too much, waaaay too much. There's no emergency here. I now know why my gut was uneasy. It's interesting how I was getting the intuitive messages about him before the behavior showed up. Control?  Some would say maybe he just  liked me. Maybe I just wasn't as interested in him. In the past I may have been flattered by his attention and his interest in me. I may have gotten caught up in a relationship that wasn't right for me. Not today. I realize how independent and discerning I've become. I trust my gut about what road to go down. I've learned the hard way.

I kept my Saturday night date as agreed. He commented on how I never answered my phone and I told him I was busy at work. I may have found the time to return his calls if he had stopped calling me.  He said he would give me another chance. I felt put off by his comments. He seemed arrogant. Although a nice man, we have very differing views in many areas. He made several  references to "those liberals" and a socialist President. He told me he wasn't judgemental and called me "sweetie". I listened. We're light years apart. I think he's used to getting his way with women based on his looks and success. I'm looking for substance.  A Swing and a Miss. There will be other opportunities for a home run on a different field.