Ever slept with "your" guy for the first time and felt really bad afterwards? You've had the sexual tension build up. You finally consummate the deal only to feel totally vulnerable and overly sensitive? It's not the morning after glow you'd been hoping for. Is your objectivity gone? Is your confidence wavering? Are you feeling unsure of yourself? Blame it on the Oxytocin.
It's the hormonal bonding element that (I speculate) keeps the species going by having women bond to men. Yes, it is a chemical secreted in the pituitary gland during and/or after sex. Men can pollinate many flowers and few have the same super glue bonding experience. It's sex to them. To us, it feels like the glow of love...'til the next morning.
Make your choices wisely. Get clear about what you want. Talk about it. Get to know who he is, not who you want him to be. Avoid your unspoken expectations by learning what kind of relationship you both want. Lay the groundwork. Talk about it and be on the same page before the Oxytocin is released. HOLD YOUR SPACE You'll save yourself some heartache.
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