Relationship Boundaries

 

Boundaries and Balance

The Dance

Boundaries are important in any relationship, and are a gauge for it's level of health. Boundaries keep it clear and non toxic. I stop here and you start there. It's a balance. You each have space and the space allows for intimacy. It's honest and above board.

Boundaries are not always easy to establish if you don't already have them operating.  Especially true when in a new relationship. You love seeing each other and want to spend every waking (and sleeping)  moment together. To breathe each other in like a fine wine or beautiful flower is heaven. Beware, for Enmeshment ensues. It's difficult to be together constantly and intertwine without the risk of losing yourself. At some point, you'll want to have a night out with the girls. Come up for air. You'll want a weekend away, or just to stay at home alone.

How do you manage this once your routine is in motion, established and you're together every night? It's hard to turn the clock back and rewind to an earlier time.Will he go away or be hurt if you tell him you don't want to see him every night? Or will you feel abandoned after you get what you ask for? Either way, the relationship sure isn't worth it if you have to lose yourself or both morph into one to sustain it.  Finding the balance for each of you is the key to what will work best for the relationship.

As difficult or uncomfortable as it is, talk about it.  Be honest about what you want, ask for it and let the chips fall where they may. You will feel freer once you get what's on your mind off of it. Your relationship will move to another level. You will create intimacy with your honesty. Freedom within the relationship is the best freedom there is! HOLD YOUR SPACE in the place of Boundaries and Balance.